When you see anyone being targeted, support her or him with a positive comment or emoji.
As painful and destructive as they are, the hateful comments allow us to map the underlying beliefs of many people in a way we've never been able to before. It's almost as if all of the negativity and misogyny needs to come to the surface so we can fully understand what it is, and how deep it goes, before we can begin to shift it. Of course, I wish it weren't there.
And understandably so, that when you're in legal jeopardy, you really cannot put yourself in a position to open yourself up to the media.
And I felt sorry, and I have felt bad about what happened.
I mean, I felt terrible. And in the beginning, I mean, I was completely devastated. I mean, can you imagine the kind of guilt that you would feel, and the responsibility?
I voted Republican this year; the Democrats left a bad taste in my mouth.
Getting and keeping my immunity became very important to me. For I needed to take care of myself and my family. No one else was worried about me.
Well, it was actually - I brought the idea of doing a documentary to HBO back in 2000, when there were some press reports sort of were bandied about that there were going to TV movies based on some of the books that were out.
I try to make very careful decisions about what I choose to do, and it's - I know that unfortunately one of the misperceptions about me, I think, is that I'm sort of a moth to the limelight.
Sure, my boss took advantage of me, but I will always remain firm on this point: it was a consensual relationship. Any 'abuse' came in the aftermath, when I was made a scapegoat in order to protect his powerful position.
I'm an incredibly lucky girl. For someone who has made some very foolish mistakes and had some tough lessons to learn very quickly, I am still incredibly lucky.
Overnight, I went from being a completely private figure to a publicly humiliated one. I was Patient Zero.
He could have made it right with the book. But he hasn't. He is a revisionist of history. He has lied.
So it was sort of an odd time because I had been hired, but my paperwork hadn't gone through. So I worked as an intern during the government shutdown, as an intern, but I already had a job.
I lost my public self, or had it stolen. In a way, it was a form of identity theft.
He ended it. He just said he didn't - he - well, what he said was that he didn't feel it was right, and you know, I mean that's - because he ended it, he'd probably have to be the one to answer that.
Changing behaviours begins with evolving beliefs.
I'd be lying if I said I wasn't angry some days. But I really have worked hard to put a lot of the anger and disappointment in the past.
When I think of the person that I thought was Bill Clinton, I think he had genuine remorse. When I think of the person that I now see is 100 percent politician, I think he's sorry he got caught.
At one point, I actually, ironically, thought I might go into criminology and work with the FBI.
I was brought up with lies all the time... that's how you got along... I have lied my entire life...
Public humiliation is a commodity and shame is an industry.
To mock at a soul in pain is a dreadful thing.
Do you want me to answer that?
Anyone who is suffering from shame and public humiliation needs to know one thing: You can survive it... You can insist on a different ending to your story. Have compassion for yourself. We all deserve compassion, and to live both online and off in a more compassionate world.
I would feel a little awkward because of my connection with politics.
I, myself, deeply regret what happened between me and President Clinton. Let me say it again: I. Myself. Deeply. Regret. What. Happened.
The most potent thing we can do is to bring more compassion online.
Constructive criticism is legitimate, but when it escalates to vitriol, it affects us all, because celebrities and influencers are part of the collective consciousness.
Building a more compassionate society is going to be a bilateral exercise between individuals and the brands that represent their aspirations, their values and their truths. People make brands. If people are compassionate, brands will be compassionate in return.
It’s time to burn the beret and bury the blue dress.
Let's acknowledge the difference between speaking up with intention and speaking up for attention.
Public shaming is a blood sport that has to stop.
I was worried about my mom more than I was worried about the president. And then I was worried about the president, and then I was worried about myself.
I'm kind of known for something that's not so great to be known for.
Online we have a compassion deficit
Well, for me, really, I think it was I wanted to try and clear up some of the misperceptions that were out there and fill in some of the historical gaps.
My creativity comes from an unhoned place, if 'unhoned' is a word.
Some people are born great and some have greatness thrust upon them
I did though at least expect him to correct the false statements he made when he was trying to protect the Presidency. Instead, he talked about it as though I had laid it all out there for the taking. I was the buffet and he just couldn't resist the dessert.
I tried to walk a line between acting lawfully and testifying falsely, but I now recognize that I did not fully accomplish this goal and that certain of my responses to questions about Ms. Lewinsky were false.
I have spent the past several years working so hard to just move on, and to try and build a life for myself.
But, clearly to me, what I've come to see is that that happened because I didn't have enough feelings of self-worth. So that I didn't feel that ... I was worthy of being number one to a man.
I was Patient Zero. The first person to have their reputation completely destroyed worldwide via the Internet.
Feeling alone and unseen can intensify the experience of being harassed, shamed, or bullied.
People who know Clinton knew the guy has a real problem keeping his hands off women.
The more shame, the more clicks. The more clicks, the more advertising dollars.
I've been told by the prosecutors and by my own attorneys I should go to law school. I guess I have a knack for it.
I've learned not to put things in my mouth that are bad for me.
As far as our culture of humiliation goes, what we need is a revolution. Public shaming as a blood sport has to stop.
Women need to support other women, not cut them down. And that goes for recognizable women too.
You can insist on a different end to the story.
There is a very personal price to public humiliation, and the growth of the Internet has jacked up that price.
We talk a lot about our right to freedom of expression, but we need to talk more about our responsibility to freedom of expression. We all want to be heard, but let's acknowledge the difference between speaking up with intention and speaking up for attention
I'm probably the only person over 40 who does not want to be 22 again.
I chose to not wear a wire and tape people. I chose to not get immunity until - were accepted, whatever - until the independent counsel's office was comfortable with what I said was the truth.
Try and have neutral compassion toward the perpetrator. Step outside the sting of the incident and realize that this person is trying to erase their own inadequacy or unhappiness by transferring it to you. It won't make the incident go away, but it's one thing you can do to reduce the pain.
So I think it's - what was important to me is that I found that I can't change the fact that people already have made an opinion about me. But I don't think that should stop me from trying to correct some of the misperceptions that are out there.
I mean, there was a portion, of course, that I think, when I look back now, that there was a portion of what attracted me must have been the awe of him being a powerful man in this environment, not to take away from who he is as a real person.
The jokes that take my last name and equate them to a sex act ... is a really cruel thing to do.
She has slimmed down since the height of impeachment, her thick blow-dried hair as shiny as Russian sable and her creamy cleavage, as historic in its own way as Mount Rushmore, was quite wonderful to behold.
I know I will never have an affair with a married man again.
I felt like a piece of trash. I felt dirty and I felt used and I was disappointed.
Be mindful of clickbait - sensational stories designed to humiliate. Click with compassion.
